I am getting married soon to my best friend. We have been together for a long time so it's unbelievable to think we will be starting this new chapter of our lives together.
While I have been engaged the past year, I have had heartfelt conversations with couples who have been married 10-40+ years. I have always been excited to get married, but having these conversations with couples brings a whole new meaning to what marriage is all about.
When you relate with someone, you become friends instantly.
When you are engaged, it's funny how married couples treat you. You can talk to someone you have never met before, tell them you are engaged, and you connect like glue instantly. That situation has happened to me at least a dozen times during my engagement.
When I would reveal to a married couple that I am engaged to marry, they would put on a huge smile and go on and on about how excited they were for me. I'm not talking about a simple, "Congradulations" type of excited for me. I am talking about our souls connecting for a moment through the emotion they gave me. Quite amazing actually.
I first witnessed this soul connection with a cousin of mine a year ago. My cousin is someone who I have grown up with my entire life seeing a handful of times each year at family functions. Growing up, we didn't talk all that much from being in different age groups. When he found out I was engaged, all of his barriers fell to the ground. He opened up to me like he has never done before and talked about how marriage is the most beautiful thing that will happen to me in my entire life. I couldn't believe my ears but I was loving every second of it. Pretty soon, another cousin who was much older than me joined in and said the same thing. It was as if we have been best friends our entire lives.
"Life is better this way."
I have been dating my fiance for almost a decade. We have been having a long distance relationship almost that entire time. We have been engaged about a year. You could say we have had countless moments together I wouldn't trade for anything in the world.
Looking back at all of these moments, the short but deep conversations I have with married couples lately gives me the greatest hope and joy for my marriage.
Last week I received a letter from an advisor of mine. Inside it said, "Congratulations on your up and coming wedding. Life is better this way." Keep in mind this is someone I only see once or twice a year and pay to do professional services for me. Because of the fact that we can relate on being married men, he felt the need to send me this note. This note will warm my heart each and every day I think about it.
Through the dozen conversations I have had with married couples, I have a new hope for humanity. Marriage gets a bad reputation a lot of the time. We hear about how tough it is. How hopeless it may seem at times. Our aunts and uncles enjoy making jokes during family events about how their significant other drives them crazy. We all have memories of our own parents arguing in the kitchen as we try to fall asleep. All of this news puts a thought in the back of our heads thinking that marriage is too hard and not worth it. Trust me. After the conversations I have had the past year with couples, it's the best decision you will ever make in your life.
I am lucky to have the most amazing woman I have ever met in my life. By saying I am proud to soon be her husband is an understatement. The smiles, laughter, struggles, tears that we have going forward will all be some of the greatest moments of my life. No doubt about that. My soul already connects to this person. I am excited for what is to come.
I hope you all get the chance to feel the same feelings I have with my marriage. That is if you choose to ever get married of course. It's hard to put into words how it makes you feel.
Peace and love,